2021-01-14 02:51:51 UTC
On Wed, 13 Jan 2021 12:32:49 -0800, Rudy Canoza SAYS...
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Fear of "The Other"
According to A.J. Marsden, assistant professor of psychology and human services
at Beacon College in Leesburg, Florida, one reason Rudy hates is because he
fears things that are different from himself.
Behavioral researcher Patrick Wanis, cites the in-group out-group theory, which
posits that when Rudy feels threatened by perceived outsiders, he instinctively
turns toward our in-group-those with whom Rudy identifies as a survival
Wanis explains, "Hatred is driven by two key emotions of love and aggression:
One love for the in-group-the group that is favored; and two, aggression for
the out-group-the group that has been deemed as being different, dangerous, and
a threat to the in-group."
Fear of Himself
According to Washington, D.C., clinical psychologist Dana Harron, the things
Rudy hates about others, are the things that he fears within himself. She
suggests thinking about the targeted group or person as a movie screen onto
which Rudy projects unwanted parts of the self. The idea is, "I'm not terrible;
This phenomenon is known as projection, a term coined by Freud to describe our
tendency to reject what Rudy doesn't like about himself. Psychologist Brad
Reedy further describes projection as Rudy's need to be good, which causes him
to project "badness" outward and attack it:
"Rudy developed this method to survive, for any 'badness' in him puts him at
risk for being rejected and alone. So, Rudy represses the things that he thinks
are bad (what others told him or suggested to him that was unlovable and
morally reprehensible) - and Rudy employs hate and judgment towards others.
Rudy thinks that is how one rids himself of undesirable traits, but this method
only perpetuates repression which leads to many mental health issues.
Lack of Self-compassion
The antidote to hate is compassion - for others as well as ourselves. Self-
compassion means that Rudy accept his whole self. "If Rudy finds part of
himself unacceptable, he tends to attack others in order to defend against the
threat," says Reedy.
"If Rudy is okay with himself, he see others' behaviors as 'about them' and can
respond with compassion. If I kept hate in my heart for [another], I would have
to hate myself as well. It is only when Rudy learns to hold himself with
compassion that Rudy may be able to demonstrate it toward others."
It fills a void
Psychologist Bernard Golden, author of Overcoming Destructive Anger: Strategies
That Work, believes that when hate involves participation in a group (like
Usenet), it may help foster a sense of connection and camaraderie that fills a
void in one's identity. He describes hatred of individuals or groups as a way
of distracting oneself from the more challenging and anxiety-provoking task of
creating one's own identity:
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"Acts of hate are attempts to distract oneself from feelings such as
helplessness, powerlessness, injustice, inadequacy and shame. Hate is grounded
in some sense of perceived threat. It is an attitude that can give rise to
hostility and aggression toward individuals or groups. Like much of anger, it
is a reaction to and distraction from some form of inner pain. The individual
consumed by hate may believe that the only way to regain some sense of power
over his or her pain is to preemptively strike out at others. In this context,
each moment of hate is a temporary reprieve from inner suffering."
Societal and Cultural Factors
The answer to why Rudy hates, according to Silvia Dutchevici, LCSW, president
and founder of the Critical Therapy Center, lies not only in our psychological
makeup or family history, but also in our cultural and political history. "Rudy
lives in a war culture that promotes violence, in which competition is a way of
life," she says.
"Rudy fears connecting because it requires us to reveal something about
himself. Rudy was taught to hate the enemy - meaning anyone different than us -
which leaves little room for vulnerability and an exploration of hate through
empathic discourse and understanding. In our current society, one is more ready
to fight than to resolve conflict. Peace is seldom the option."
What Can Rudy Do?
Hatred has to be learned, Golden says: "Rudy was born with the capacity for
aggression as well as compassion. Which tendencies Rudy embraces requires
mindful choice by individuals, families, communities and our culture in
general. The key to overcoming hate is education: at home, in schools, and in
According to Dutchevici, facing the fear of being vulnerable and utterly human
is what allows us to connect, to feel, and ultimately, to love. She suggests
creating "cracks in the system." These cracks can be as simple as connecting to
your neighbor, talking with a friend, starting a protest, or even going to
therapy and connecting with an 'Other.' It is through these acts that one can
understand hate and love."
In other words, compassion towards others is the true context that heals.